Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 13, 2024

Grandma is the Best
Noureddine Boutahar

On the 8th of March, I was driven by an undeniable urge to pen down these cherished memories, a heartfelt tribute to my grandmother, a truly remarkable woman, whose influence shaped my character, instilling within me a profound sense of appreciation, respect, care and love for all women.

In the vast expanse of my childhood, Grandma was the towering beacon of my life. She wasn't just my guardian; she was my closest friend, teacher, and partner in navigating life's twists and turns. Her bedtime stories fueled a burning love for books as I journeyed through the landscape of growing up.

My childhood nights back in the late 1960s and early 1970s held a special enchantment that I eagerly looked forward to. My family gatherings over dinner with my siblings and cousins were about more than just the meal; they were an occasion for good-natured banter, playful teasing, and the occasional sibling rivalry. Nevertheless, the zenith of these evenings undeniably belonged to my grandmother's captivating stories. Her storytelling was nothing short of an art form, her narratives transcended mere tales; they were intricate voyages through time and the realms of imagination. With each story she spun, she effortlessly captured our complete attention. What truly set her apart was her gift for adorning her stories with unexpected twists and vivid details, rendering them all the more enthralling. On occasion, she would revisit the same story, but with a completely different tone, style, and voice, leaving us in rapt fascination with her storytelling versatility. These nights, brimming with laughter and wonder, were indelibly etched into our memories, weaving themselves into the rich fabric of our family's customs and togetherness.

There were nights when the cozy embrace of my grandmother's storytelling would lull me into a peaceful slumber even before the end of her captivating tales. Drifting into the realm of dreams mid-story was a common occurrence. However, the beauty of it all lay in my beloved grandmother's unwavering readiness to resume the narrative where she had left off on the following evening. She possessed a wellspring of patience and affection that she poured generously into her stories.

The nights my grandmother began her narratives became a ritual, a communal gathering around the story telling hearth where every eye was transfixed on her. In those moments, the world outside seemed to dissolve, leaving us immersed exclusively in the captivating universe she wove for us. The way she brought her tales to life, with that twinkle in her eye and the cadence of her voice, was nothing less than magical.

As the stories unfurled, time itself seemed to blur, and fatigue would occasionally catch up with us. One by one, in a gradual succession like falling dominos, the heads of my siblings, cousins, and myself would nod and eventually surrender to the sweet call of slumber. It was a testament to the power of her storytelling, its capacity to captivate our thoughts while guiding us with a gentle touch into the realm of dreams. This enabled us to bask in the warm familial unity until the dawn of a new day. 

My grandmother was a remarkable storyteller who effectively acted as my first novels, especially since we had no books at home. However, Nanna, as we used to call her, was not only a fable-teller but also a culinary magician who could whip up any delectable delight my heart desired. She would not only prepare savory dishes tailored to my whims and cravings, but she also had a fascinating talent to conjure up the most mouthwatering sweet treats. Being naturally tall and slender, she indulged me with her culinary delights, always insisting that I needed to eat heartily to become stronger.

Grandma’s love knew no bounds so much so that she was embraced and adored by the entire community. Her kind-hearted nature and the multitude of roles she fulfilled in our village endeared her to everyone. She donned the hats of an experienced midwife, a trusted advisor to women in their marital issues, a competent traditional healer offering herbal treatments for a variety of ailments to women and children. I always found joy in accompanying her in her house calls to neighbors or relatives because, as a guest, I was always treated to the most delectable pastries and the choicest roasted chicken piece, usually a chicken thigh.

 In the days when I couldn't accompany my grandmother on these visits, there was a heartwarming tradition she held dear. She would often return home with a succulent piece of chicken enveloped in a slice of home-made bread soaked in the aromatic stew. She always wrapped the treat in a white piece of cloth she habitually carried with her for just such a purpose. My ritual was always to start with the juicy meat before relishing the soaked bread. What an exquisite treat it was, and what a cherished memory that remains etched in the treasure grooves of my heart.

Living with my grandparents who had lived to a ripe old age was an opportunity for me to glean wisdom from their rich life experiences. Nanna and Dadda, as I called them, served as my educators, my guides, my guardians, my refuge, my source of solace, and so much more. They offered me a wellspring of knowledge, wisdom, and life lessons. They instilled in me the deep-rooted values of integrity, humility, and the power of unconditional love.

Rest in peace, Nanna. You were truly unparalleled, a cut above, the epitome of excellence. I'll cherish your memory in my heart for as long as I walk this earth.

 

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Happy International Women's Day 2012
Noureddine Boutahar

March 8 is a time to pause and think about the lives of our moms, wives, sisters, daughters, female colleagues, gal pals and all the females who have touched our lives. It’s a time to stand to attention and salute all women, especially those brave ladies in poor countries like Morocco who fought and are still fighting for a better world for themselves and their offspring.

Happy International Women’s Day, then, to my illiterate stay-at-home Mom. A strong-minded and caring woman who attended to the needs of her ten boys and girls, and the needs of my Dad and other dependents for no pay but with stoic resignation and calm, and never thought of saying "Goodbye to Daddy"

Happy IWD to my five sisters who took Mom for a role model and devote their time and energy to the comfort, well-being and welfare of their respective families. I wish them a happy IWD and I congratulate them on being great moms and wonderful first teachers who taught and are still teaching their kids good manners and appropriate social behavior.

Happy IWD to my wife who works more than sixteen hours a day at home (with little help from me, I admit) so I can work less than eight hours outside. A heartfelt salute to my wife who attends to the needs of our kids so I can take care of other people's kids. Sincere gratitude to this great woman who, time and again, stays up all night so one of the kids can sleep or feel better under the warmth of her hand.

Happy IWD to my daughters to whom I wish a better fate and a far better world than present-day women’s where they can live free of discrimination and of man’s dictatorship, and where they can compete on a level playing field. My daughters’ future is the only thing, in these sclerotic patriarchal regimes, societies and world, which keeps me up at night and gives me the severest headaches.

Happy IWD to all the women in the MENA region who took to the streets and took part in The Arab Spring, side by side with men, to overthrow dictatorships but came back home empty-handed. Happy IWD and good luck to Karman Tawakul and her sisters in their fight for real ”democratic rights” because it seems they piggybacked ungrateful men who took advantage of them and then put speed bumpers in their way and arrogated more power to themselves.

Having said that, here is a piece of advice to you, dear ladies: after almost 100 International Women’s Days, gender equality is still a pipe dream, which should put you on your mettle because there is still a lot of work to do and a long way to go.